SUSPENDER SKIRT AND FAT FRIENDS - Fat Girl Flow

SUSPENDER SKIRT AND FAT FRIENDS

This post may contain affiliate links. Affiliate links allow Fatgirlflow to earn commissions on products we recommend. All opinions are our own.

Plus Size Suspender Skirt || Fatgirlflow.com

Plus Size Suspender Skirt || Fatgirlflow.com

Mandy sent me a text one night saying “look what I bought!” with an image of this super cute suspender skirt attached, and I immediately followed suit and purchased it. I think just about every plus size femme has a black skater skirt, and this is such a great little twist on the classic.

But this post isn’t so much about the skirt, as it is about the friendship (Mandy didn’t know that when she signed up for this!).

When I began my body positive journey a few years ago I had very few fat friends. In reality, I had almost none at all. I was surrounded by people giving me looks of “concern” when I would exclaim “I’m never going on a diet again! I’m going to love this body damn it!!!”. Nobody really tells you how important having support is going to be when you try and start loving yourself. Nobody tells you how many times you’ll have to cry in a bathroom when another family member tries to tell you about this great new diet they’re on. Nobody tells you your friends will be critical when you try to start wearing clothes that may not be “flattering”. Nobody tells you that people may think you’re a bad influence because you’re ok with what they presume as being “unhealthy”. Nobody tells you how alienating all of this can be.

We all need to believe in our values and have people who share those values. Our support systems are critical to our growth as people. But we go through this self love journey believing we’re all on our own. Not wanting to force our beliefs on other people, or worried that we might sound too radical, scared that people won’t stick around because we’re not adhering to these societal norms anymore. It’s really tough. And when I met Mandy (and the third in our trio, Cydney) I finally found the validation and support I had desperately needed. Here’s the cool part- I’ve never met either of them. We talk every day and we’ve become best friends. They’re so important to me, and such an integral part of my healing process.

If you’re struggling to find people you can connect with who want to be supportive of your body positive journey, please do not be too hard on yourself. Sometimes there aren’t people in our lives who we can lean on when we start our self love journey. Follow body positive instagram accounts (like ChubbyCartwheels, VirgieTovar, RadicalBodyLove), join fat positive facebook groups, reach out to people in your community that may be in the same boat. Try and remind yourself that your values are worthy of respect and consideration.

You’re doing amazing things, and you should be super proud of yourself.

Skirt – Forever 21
Mandy’s crop top – Forever 21, last year
Corissa’s vest – Target
Corissa’s shoes – Similar

www.fatgirlflow.com

 

Fatshion
previous post
next post

You Might Also Like

  • Kara
    July 23, 2015 at 5:03 am

    Oh hon, I want to cry because that is basically the same journey I had almost 20 years ago, when I decided to love my body and be body positive. I hate that we haven’t got any further in a generation! I think it’s great though that you have such great friends supporting you and that is really important. I think, for myself, I’ve been a little more abrasive about size issues with some people just because of my life but I’m glad you feel that you can be a positive force without forcing your opinion (as the other side, or most of humanity does)! Btw, I think you are both too cute in your outfits! Oh and I don’t have a skater skirt…with or without suspenders, but that’s more to do with my age than my size and only having 2 skirts that are above the knee. Although, I have been thinking about getting one because of your blog. Take care, keep doing what you do and big hugs, kara

  • Midge
    August 12, 2015 at 4:51 am

    You and I are in different body-acceptance & total-love-of-said-body situations, but everything you say here is spot on! Seeing images of others who look like me is so validating. Being able to talk about the experience of this life with other people who are living it is so important. My body, my choice; I’m not going to apologize b/c my body is no one’s business.

    • fatgirlflow
      August 13, 2015 at 5:46 pm

      It’s always so amazing to me how the thingsthat go along with body positivity can be applied to so many different people in so many stages. I love it… makes me feel this awesome sense of common humanity that I lack sometimes <3

  • Nikki
    February 28, 2016 at 11:35 am

    THIS!!!! OMG THIS!!!
    Im still at the start of my body pos journey and i literally have NO fat friends, not even slightly overweight friends, one of my best friends is LITERALLY a model… so this post hits home to me so hard!!! I grew up in a fat family so my sister is contantly on one diet or another, always yoyo-ing and i cant talk to her about this stuff (she still doesnt seem to think depression is real). i feel like i have no one at all that knows what im going through, thats why you, virgie, Livie, (beyondthesunset) and many others have saved me from going crazy. i read your blogs or scroll through IG feeds whenever im having a hard to love myself day. i wish that i could find a friend in my situation but honestly dont even know how to go about that… how do adults even make friends these days?

    Thanks for always being here for me and others to help get us back on track to a more positive life 🙂

    • fatgirlflow
      February 28, 2016 at 2:33 pm

      We’re all in this together babe <3 <3 <3

      • rachel salazar
        June 17, 2016 at 2:32 pm

        But where did you purchase the skirt?! I love it!!

  • Andreia Parada
    May 6, 2016 at 7:00 pm

    I had just satrated my journey accepting my body when something happened…..since i am trying to get pregnant the doctors that I am seing all say:”you have to lose weight otherwise you can get pregnant”. What is going on with that, can’t fat girl get pregnant…..what is it with the ideia that if you are fat you are some how sick. Keep doing what you do….

    • fatgirlflow
      May 7, 2016 at 8:28 am

      Hey andreia! Check out Plussizebirth.com – they have so many great resources on plus size pregnancy!!!

  • Hannah
    November 22, 2016 at 5:14 pm

    PLEASE !! WHERE did you get this skirt!!?

  • 99 Shares
    Share78
    Pin21
    Tweet
    Share
    +1