When Your Clothes Reflect Your Attitude

When Your Outfit Matches Your Attitude // Fatgirlflow.com

When Your Outfit Matches Your Attitude // Fatgirlflow.com

When Your Outfit Matches Your Attitude // Fatgirlflow.com

When Your Outfit Matches Your Attitude // Fatgirlflow.com

A couple really important things are going on in the photos above. The first is that I’m wearing clothes I love. The second is that I feel like my clothes reflect my attitude.

For a long time I’ve dressed in a way that many people would describe as “girly”. I’ve written about it before, and how it isn’t exactly what I think my vibe is, but there’s something very safe to me about dressing feminine in my fat body. Something that makes me feel less harsh, softer, more acceptable. Maybe if I wear this flowery dress people will be less offended by my aggressive demand to be treated like my body deserves to take up the space it holds. Perhaps a cute pastel combo will sway people into thinking my husband isn’t living some sad life where he has settled for a fat girl with a bad attitude when they see us together. Or my cute pink lipstick will somehow soften my naturally authoritative voice.

What I’ve learned from dressing that way is that it does in fact work. When I dress in feminine clothing it actually does appear to make me more acceptably fat to some people. Great. Now I know, and I can move the fuck on. That was a super boring and tiring experiment to unknowingly put myself through, and I’m hoping I don’t have to test that theory ever again. I can’t dress for other people’s perceptions anymore. There are too many clothes to wear and too many fun things to try on, for me to keep playing it safe. And that doesn’t mean I never wear frilly flowery things ever again, it just means that I don’t have to. I am releasing myself from being trapped in that mind frame.

Who would have ever guessed personal style could be filled with so many hang-ups?

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Black Jeans | Halter Top | Bag (similar) | Shoes | Choker

 

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  • Libby
    August 6, 2016 at 3:46 pm

    Man… there is so much depth to getting dressed in the morning.
    I had, almost, this exact conversation in my brain. I really wanted to wear my Charlie Hustle, KC t-shirt (PS their 2x fits my usually 3-4x body perfectly if you’re in the mood for one) and jeans today. But I’m working, which means that I’ll be seen by more of the public and felt like I should wear a dress instead. There was a long “what the fuck” conversation in my head wherein I ended up going with the t-shirt and I even put on a flannel over top–decidedly un-girly. But I still couldn’t figure out why it was that I had such a hang up about it.
    Again–you put words on my feelings. As usual. 😉

  • Henrietta A Handy
    August 6, 2016 at 4:58 pm

    Thank you! It took my mother-in-law to actually get me to let my personality out in my style. I am NEVER going back. Yeah, sometimes I dress “conservatively” with colors and style, but I’m happy being me. So glad you shared this!

  • Amelia B.
    August 6, 2016 at 6:11 pm

    I want that look. I love that look. Where did you find the confidence to wear that, completely slay, and just have the other attitude to let people know they can fuck off and you can wear what you want. I have plenty of clothes in my closet, adorable stuff from Torid, Lovesick, etc, but like you said, it’s all soft and pretty…and covers everything they think I should cover. But dammit, I want to wear high wasted jeans and not give a shit that my gut looks less than society standards in them. I want to wear a halter and give my middle finger to anyone who stares at my mid drift. Teach me your ways of the slay, girl!

  • paloma
    August 6, 2016 at 7:11 pm

    This is a great post and I like how comfortable you are in what you dress. I am a big girl too and sometimes big girls they feel that they can’t dress how they want to dress because of people judging them which that shouldn’t be the issue.

  • Destiny Vaughan
    August 6, 2016 at 9:09 pm

    I’m loving that outfit! The bag and shoes together blow my mind. Keep it up; you are absolutely slaying. Wear whatever you want because it seems like you already know how to rock it, and in the process, I’ll wear what I want too because I know how to rock it too! Body confidence is so important, and I love how you’re spreading it all over the place. Thanks for helping a girl find her confidence. <3

  • Susan Leighton
    August 6, 2016 at 9:38 pm

    Hey Corissa! I am new to your blog. You have hit the nail on the head. Unfortunately, we are bombarded 24-7 with what the ideal feminine form should look like that the simple act of putting on clothes can be daunting! You have the right idea. Dress the way you want. In the end, if people don’t accept you, then you can tell them, “Bye, Felicia.!” They weren’t worth the fuss anyway. Keep smiling.

  • Daph
    August 6, 2016 at 10:09 pm

    You’re so beautiful!!
    I hope others will continue to see the beauty in you .

  • Madeline
    August 7, 2016 at 2:06 am

    I’m really new to your blog and your channel, but I just wanted to say that reading your posts and watching your videos has boosted my confidence level so much higher! Thank you so much for everything you do!! You’re such an incredible inspiration to me. 😀
    I sort of have the opposite inner dialogue when it comes to feminine clothing, having gone from wearing nothing but oversized graphic tees to wearing dresses and skirts. I kinda feel like in the past I’d been denying myself these options because I was too afraid of being noticed in any way. Now, having found cute options at places like Torrid, I finally feel like myself and I feel good wearing clothes that actually fit me! No matter what I wear, I always feel the most confident when I dress in what makes me feel good, rather than dress based on what I want other people to see and think about me.

    • fatgirlflow
      August 7, 2016 at 9:42 pm

      I think a LOT of people are the same, and have kind of the opposite inner monologue!!! Same feelings, different expressions <3 thank you for reading!

  • Ishi Nafuar
    August 7, 2016 at 4:44 am

    Do what you want girl, you’re looking gorgeous!????

  • Aparna Mudi
    August 7, 2016 at 6:14 pm

    You look fantastic and that is the bottomline… You would look like you feel… And the Diva that you are – The transition looks fantastic.

  • Lyndsy eason
    August 8, 2016 at 6:13 am

    Love your page !

  • djemima
    August 8, 2016 at 8:12 am

    You look amazing and this post is inspirational because a lot of the time personal style has nothing to actually do with us. Thank you for making personal style all about ourselves and not pleasing others.

  • Greykia L Harris
    August 8, 2016 at 9:47 am

    I honestly appreciate this article so much. You look great so you better keep slaying girl! can’t nobody tell you how to look your best, but YOU.

  • Keyra
    August 8, 2016 at 1:25 pm

    You are simply a revelation!

  • charmed wench
    August 8, 2016 at 2:19 pm

    you look fab. I love your hair I’ve tried to style my hair this way but I never looks as good as yours.

  • Zoe
    August 8, 2016 at 3:16 pm

    Boom! I love this site! I just wrote a post about the troubles that come with shopping for tall clothing. So much of the time I feel totally unfeminine because I can’t find ‘pretty’ things in my size and it’s really disheartening but you’re saying everything I’ve been saying for years! Thanks for kicking ass and celebrating differences!

  • Brenda
    August 9, 2016 at 5:01 pm

    Love you blog!’ Inspirational!! Just started mine and I’m really excited!!

  • Tina
    August 10, 2016 at 7:30 am

    I admire women who feel so comfortable and have so much self-confidence. Most of my clothes are black…probably because it’s suppose to make me look thinner. But most is also over-sized. When I buy something, mostly tops, I would want the biggest size possible. Can’t look too flattering. Like it would hide the fact that I am over-weight. My standard uniform is all black, over-sized clothing.

  • Testimony Lyrical Artist
    August 10, 2016 at 4:08 pm

    Great post! True meaning of being bold and loving who you are unapologetically!

  • Kitty Morris
    August 11, 2016 at 2:38 pm

    Oh my gosh, I absolutely love this post, thank you for this! I was exactly the same, my personal style is a mix of girly with rock and roll, I’m all stompy boots and pleather jackets, and I do feel less ‘acceotable’ when I’m truly dressed for me, so thank you for this!

  • Persniickety101
    August 11, 2016 at 7:53 pm

    You go gurlll! Fuck the haters ?

  • Karen Strickholm
    August 13, 2016 at 12:38 pm

    Re: ur comment on YT about hating the winter months, I had same thing. Tried those supposedly “full spectrum” lightbulbs from GE etc., which were no bueño.

    Then someone turnedE on to Chromalux full-spectrum bulbs, and they have made a HUGE difference! You wouldn’t think a person could get so excited about lightbulbs, but here’s why:

    1. They make u feel better in winter. And we need YOU to feel good, because your voice is important, and touching so many!

    2. They are made w/ different technology, so the lightbulb is actually a beautiful pinkish-lavender! Pretty when visible.

    3. It casts a beautiful natural light, making people, clothing and objects look warm and welcoming, een in the dead of winter. Also things appear true to color.

    4. This is the bulb the Scandinavians use. And they ought know! 😉

    5. Artists use these lightbulbs. And they ought know too.

    6. They come is huge range, frosted and not, 3-way, downlights, chandalier lightbulbs, etc.

    7. Last a really long time!

    Available on Internet, that’s where I buy them. Hope that helps u w/ winter blues, just felt so compelled to share that for some crazy reason! Xoxox

    • fatgirlflow
      August 17, 2016 at 3:36 pm

      Karen this is so sweet thank you so much <3 I will definitely check them out!!!!!

  • Zulu Obanor
    August 15, 2016 at 9:47 am

    You go girl! ??
    http://zuluobanor.com

  • Tess
    August 15, 2016 at 11:01 am

    Loving this outfit, loving how much your are rocking this outfit, loving your stomach tattoo.

  • VinylOctopus
    August 16, 2016 at 7:46 am

    At the end of the day we all need to do what makes us happy (so long as we’re not hurting anyone). I think a lot of us get bogged down in whats ‘acceptable’ and ‘expected’ we almost lose ourselves and whats important.

  • Kristina Steiner
    August 16, 2016 at 8:50 am

    Ignore everyone! They don’t matter. If you feel good, you look good. And you look great!!

  • Tess Porter
    August 16, 2016 at 11:04 pm

    I just seen you on a YouTube video of 10 people who became internet famous so I thought I’d Google fat girl flow. You wanna know the very first thing I noticed when I seen these few pictures of you on this page? . . . I noticed how happy you are. . . It encourages me to not put so much emphasis on how other people might “see” me (the way some clothes that you wear to hide the fat only make you look worse) There have been plenty of cute clothes I’ve passed on because they show my fat rolls instead of hide them, but I think I will try to get out of my comfort zone and wear something pretty for a change. You are a refreshing inspiration. ?

  • Tiffany
    August 18, 2016 at 10:10 pm

    You go girl! I just found your blog and have to say ypu make me smile. I love your videos, your confidence, nd of course your style 🙂

  • Elin
    September 11, 2016 at 4:24 pm

    Yes to being true to you! If that’s wearing bubblegum pink lipstick and floral print or black lipstick and leather jackets. Or a combination of the above. Or whatever you feel like wearing, whoever you are. I’m all about celebrating your own power. Keep up the amazing work with the blog. I love when a new post comes into my life. <3

  • Barb
    September 12, 2016 at 7:13 pm

    wonderful, also, so nice because as a heavier person I’m supposed to be “FUN FUN FUN”. So wear a polka dot dress and you are basically a fat clown, and people are positive toward you. Throw on just a Tshirt and some jeans and you are just a fat slob. Everyone else can run to the store, with say a fun tshirt and jeans, but the fat lady does and.. forget it. Boots? oh they aren’t fun rain boots with cats all over them? They are serious nice boots? No no no no no… not allowed! Also presents, the family and friends love to give funny hats, crazy socks, and dresses that are VIVID often with, yes cats. No we don’t always want to dress like we’re quirky and FUN FUN FUN.